Comments on: Sex Baby! Sex!

By: Zoe Winters

Zoe Winters — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 03:12:22 +0000

mmmm Gerard Butler in a leather kilt.

I feel much the same way about sex scenes. To me, what’s hot is the situation and the build up, often the dialogue. The act itself without that is pretty flat. I love sex when it’s well written, but when it isn’t I often skim it.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 22:49:59 +0000

Azteclady - that’s so true! It’s so much about connection and if the sex enhances that, or tells you who the characters are - it really works.

Anonymous - thank you for piping up to add that!

Tina - LOL, yes.

By: Tina Brunelle

Tina Brunelle — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 14:25:41 +0000

congrates to the winner!! and pet peeve in sex book… when there is so many people switching beds you need a tracker and gps unit to remember who is who

By: regularly identified, anonymous today

regularly identified, anonymous today — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 07:10:09 +0000

Am posting this anonymously because my current FWB is supremely turned on by me gagging on his…well, you know. Don’t know why. Don’t wanna know why. Just a random fact to use however you wish.

By: azteclady

azteclady — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 02:47:11 +0000

Okay, I’m back with an on topic comment now.

With a bit of a detour as a prelude to the actual comment, of course (brevity, not my thing).

Yesterday my 15yo daughter picked up and started reading one of the dozens (hundreds?) of books lying around my bedroom. I thought she would read the blurb, shrug, and put it down, as she’s done before. This time, she kept going and going and going (it is a GREAT book, really), and has not let the book out of her sight since. It’s such a good book, I’m bouncing with joy that’s she’s reading it.

And then it hit me–just now, in fact–that there are one or two sex scenes in it. Funny, I can’t tell you exactly how many there are, even though I’ve re-read this book close to a dozen times. You know why I can’t? Because when I think of this book I think of the characters, the story, the setting, the craft; and while the sex scenes that ARE there are necessary and important to the development of character, relationship, and story, they are not THE one thing that makes the book.

So now I’m happy my daughter is reading what I consider a great book, while the Catholic girl in me is blushing knowing that she’ll eventually read the sex scenes.

Ah well, they do have to grow up–and I was reading plenty of adult stuff much younger than 15. I can hope she’ll turn out okay.

Right?

By: Estella

Estella — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 21:50:59 +0000

Unnecessary sex.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 17:32:04 +0000

Azteclady - you are SO correct!

Pam - I do agree that a scene just tossed in does read that way.

Amie - I read across genres and I find myself more and more picky about what erotic stuff I read over time.

JSL - Yes to all that!

By: JSL

JSL — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 05:03:20 +0000

My pet peeves with sex in books is where it doesn’t fit, or seems like the author is trying too hard. The conversation is stilted, the scene awkward, and feels like it came out of no where.

By: Amie Stuart ~ On the Back Porch | Oh look I’m bloggin’

Amie Stuart ~ On the Back Porch | Oh look I’m bloggin’ — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 02:04:07 +0000

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By: Amie Stuart

Amie Stuart — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 02:00:12 +0000

What Pam said…unnecessary sex. Not that I’ve never lost control of my characters or anything but I think, as you already said, it is what it is and sometimes it is not so hot, not so sharp focused, not so in your face and that’s okay.

Ridiculous set-ups/meets of characters who immediately boff each other because they’re so hot. If I didn’t care about them before, I don’t care about them having sex and you probably just made me laugh (and not in a good way)

I’ll be honest and say I don’t read a lot of erotic romance/erotica because, well, it makes me neurotic and then I start worrying because I might not have enough sex or it’s not this or it’s not that…I just value my sanity too much I guess LOL